Whether triggered by a public speaking engagement or a first date, feelings of anxiety and nervousness can be downright crippling to those who experience them. They may even make you want to back down and cancel your date, interview, or appointment.
Although we can’t stop these feelings from arising, there are some
tricks we can use to overcome them when they do show up. Here are five
ways to overcome those awful feelings of anxiety and nervousness!
1. Be prepared
thoroughly ahead of time will make whatever situation you’re
confronting seem more manageable. If you’re giving a speech, write it
and practice delivering it in front of family members, a colleague, or a
friend. If you’re going on a date, plan what you will wear and how long
you want to take to get ready. You can even think of potential topics
to discuss and questions to ask!
Being well prepared will make you feel more confident and less
nervous in any situation, as you’ll feel more able to anticipate what’s
2. Visualize yourself succeeding
Imagining the bad things that are going to happen is what makes us
feel nervous and anxious in the first place. Put this stressful reel of
images to an end by visualizing yourself succeeding instead!
To do this, find a relaxed position—you can be seated or lying down.
Imagine the scenario unfolding exactly as you like from beginning to
end. Feel how in control you are of the entire situation. You can do
this once before the event, or if it’s a big occasion, every day the
week leading up to it!
3. Talk to someone you trust
Sometimes, we just can’t bring ourselves out of our own anxiety,
negativity, or nervousness. When this happens, the objective perspective
of someone we trust can be of immense help. Share your feelings with a
best friend, spouse, or family member. Being outside the situation, they
may be able to help you see how unfounded your fears probably are.
4. Take deep breaths
If you find your worries about the situation carrying you away and
making it difficult for you to calmly focus on the present situation at
hand, then take some time to yourself before the big event to practice
Find a spot where you can close your eyes, be alone, and turn your
attention to your breath. Inhale and exhale slowly and deeply through
your nose, feeling your belly rise on your inhalation and fall on your
exhalation. Do this 10 times, or until you feel calmer and more focused.
5. Let yourself feel excited!
have shown that some of that nervous energy can actually help you
perform better if you can harness it, feel positive, and focus it on the
task at hand. If you’re giving a speech, focus on how that energy will
allow you to deliver it enthusiastically and energetically. If you’re
preparing for an interview, realize that your energy will show how
excited you are about the job.
If you’re getting ready for a date and you feel nervous, that’s good
too! It probably means you’re actually interested in the person. Find
positive ways to channel your nervous energy, and you’ll automatically
feel more excited and prepared.
Next time you feel like your nervous energy is getting the best of
you, remember that you don’t need to cancel anything or retreat inside
yourself. Simply prepare thoroughly, visualize your success, acknowledge
your nervousness—and then turn it into excitement! You’ll do great!
-The Alternative Daily